Following on from my hub The Top 10 Passion Killers for Women I felt it only right to redress the balance by writing a hub on The Top 10 Passion Killers for Men. Sometimes simply having love for each other is enough and the all the consuming passion of being madly in love is not essential. I remember an anecdote where a child asked her grandmother how old do you have to be to stop having sex. If your spouse treats you in this manner then you must put a stop to it, this is unacceptable behavior and must not be tolerated. What if you are neither “in love” or “love” your spouse? Why would they want to spend the rest of their own remaining months or years alone when they could have a friend who they love as their spouse for the rest of their days, someone they could go on holiday with, share a joke with, have a cuddle with and have a good conversation with?
The minute I did the heavy cleaning and lawn work, and I mean heavy lawn work, clearing about five acres, in order to settle down to write, without the surrounding environment stressing my body due to its condition, (for instance there is an old oak tree probably 100 years old, an enormous tree standing there as if screaming for help, which is seriously how it appeared, huge dead branches hanging and falling, chat sexy live for maybe even decades, just left where they fell, no help came until I tried to clean it up, beer cans and bottles on the ground and in the ground everywhere I cleared, a completely green slime pond called “Beaver” lake or pond or young petite nude something, even the fruit of the trees was rotten (acorns), gall balls, poison ivy was also killing the trees I think) I booted up my laptop, it was hacked, I was locked out, and another 18 months of work was gone, and he kicked me out just out of the blue, with deniable commentary that psycho stalker’s wife was going to now park her RV in the spot I cleared and write online, including regarding Evidence That Demands a Verdict by the late Josh McDowell.
That was almost four months ago. Finding a romantic way to propose to your girlfriend is a unique challenge, and one you will no doubt want to get right, as hopefully this will be the one and only time you ever need to propose to anybody. Discuss the dreams, ideas, your feelings, and face the fear, then you will have clarity. Whether the other person was in love with them or not, so long as they cared enough to not to want to see them die alone, then they are showing them love. If they give them a ‘relationship’ based on this love for whatever time they have left, then surely this is a good relationship. I have been thinking about just this – and that, for couples who are parents of children, sometimes the loving-each-other but not in-love type of relationship works out best because there isn’t that hot and cold passion–or hot and hot passion–and the couple can work as a team and focus on being great parents. I listed several pen pal sites above, and this would be the best place to find one.
There are even occasions when the love was already there and this is why one partner agrees to help the other out by marrying them so they can remain in the country of their choice. There are marriages that are convenient because they allow people from other countries to live in countries they would otherwise not be able to (think green card). If only everyone else did, but many people don’t, and if they held out for ‘true’ love for their entire lives they might well die old, lonely and struggling to cope financially. Well generally we ‘settle’ for someone who we are either in love with, (but not to the same degree), or someone we deeply care about and love, but are not ‘in love’ with. Interesting point, but I would say to care for someone is to love them on some level, so it falls under the same category as I described here.